Surprisingly, 70% of parents whose children have a learning disability felt uncomfortable in public, when his son, almost two - have lost ...
Surprisingly, 70% of parents whose children have a learning disability felt uncomfortable in public, when his son, almost two - have lost third of social engagement because of concerns about how your children are treated and 21% were asked to leave public places. This is according to a study by the charity of learning difficulties Mencap .
James Robinson, Policy and Senior Policy for children and young Mencap, said HuffPost Parents: "The public attitude towards learning disabilities have improved, but there is clearly a long way to go. Parents should not feel the constant need need to apologize or feel uncomfortable. It's normal to feel uncomfortable, but we urge people to take the time to understand, participate in and help to end this isolation that many feel parents. "
Therefore, before you make conclusions about "children misbehave" or believe to jump that you "discreet" look the other way, please read ...
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1. My child is a person, not a label.
"Down syndrome means that Seb needs extra support to learn things and to achieve their full potential. But it is not "Down's syndrome. He is a child, a human being like everyone else and he has feelings like everyone.
"It is not necessary to have a learning disability and should be supported because no obstacle the assumptions that people make. "Caroline White, whose son is nine Seb.
"I want to see people about learning difficulties and to see the beautiful Rosie ,, determined girl who is funny.
"Sometimes (can especially when they sing bells in the spring, as hard as you followed the supermarket by laughter!) People look at it, but it does not bother me.
"I want to see people because I am incredibly proud of my daughter. All smiles at her and nine times out of 10 they are back and say hello to Rosie smile. "The daughter of Tom Bachofner Rosie is six and has Down - syndrome.
2. Never forget your hurtful comments.
"A friend told me to leave my son, whether by car or in your garden instead of letting him into her house. He said he was very angry and offended that he was no eye contact. No eye contact is an autistic behavior. It is no longer a friend. "The son of Ramya Rishi Kumar is 10 and autism and has the learning problems associated with it.
"Once I said I would have canceled and Seb was a weak link in the gene pool. "Caroline White, author of the book called: a story for the families .
"We found Rosie was born with Down syndrome in the exploration of 20 weeks. could After 30 weeks of consultants scan transition the conversation entered pregnancy terminate up to 36 weeks should change our minds! We had spent the previous night stroller to explore the names of the girls and discuss. It was to have less value because of their disability very painful to see the lives of our babies appeared. "Tom Bachofner, Father Rosie.
3. However, like any proud parents, we love kindness and compliments.
"I'm in a coffee shop with my children. When we left a woman me a letter. She wrote that some people struggle with normal children so you can all enjoy each other and enjoy a meal together was so beautiful. He also said I was an inspiration and older brother Harry was special. We had a terrible week this week and really stood up. "Chantal Chaervey, Mother Ted, 16, and Harry, 14, who has severe brain damage.
"You must be so proud of what he achieved," it's the most beautiful thing has been said. We are!
"Charli Mai visited brownies and swimming lessons. He remained in the normal school for four years. She had to open the heart surgery, aged three and almost did not, but he was in the hallway after a week on foot. Charli is now 11, and she brings a smile to your face every day. "Mark West" resolute and independent "Charli-Mai father, the Down - Syndrome.
4. The decision to have another child is not "courageous".
"People often say things without realizing that they are hurting - some people said to me, I have the courage to have more children in the world as if another child with Down syndrome would be the worst. "Caroline White, seb mother -old nine.
"Charli is so attentive to his little sister Franki. She likes and always laugh bits. "Sarah West, Charli Mai mother.
5. We know that you may not know what to say.
"If I go on the road with Charli, see some people, but most look down. You will not make eye contact. It is ignorance, really. This is our child, and we will do everything possible to protect them. "Mark West Father Charli-May, 11, the Down - has syndrome.
"The amount of positive feedback I had Lucas outweighs the total negative. I tell people not to be afraid "hello" to say to the people with a learning disability - they often find to be interesting people, friendly and fun, like everyone else, "Emma Nash, whose son Lucas has 18 and has a learning disability and deep physical disabilities.
6. Parents of a child with learning disabilities is difficult. But my life is enriched every day.
"Yes, life is sometimes more difficult and brings challenges, we must sometimes fight for funds or victims of prejudice - but the rewards are many, many more. Seb has enriched our lives in a way that could have imagined never, I see the world differently because of the SEB. He taught me a lot and the world would not modify or change our trip. The only thing I would change is the attitude of the other. "Caroline White.
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"With Rosie the eyes open much of the world, who might otherwise not seen. Her brothers are very protective of her and have more perceptive and intuitive to other children, especially those who have additional needs or can feel excluded. We never change Rosie; Down - syndrome is a fact that it is what it is, and it's perfect. "Tom Bachofner whose daughter Rosie is six and has Down - syndrome.
"It can be difficult to be the guardian of the Rishi 7.24. It is a constant struggle with the system only to protect, not his mother but also his teacher, his best friend and lawyer. It can sometimes be very lonely. But Rishi gave me the priceless gift of perspective and made me a better and stronger person. He taught me to appreciate all the milestones and celebrate, no matter how big or small! "Son of Ramya Rishi Kumar, 10, has autism and related learning problems.
"Harry has the mental age of a two year old and is totally dependent on me all aspects of their daily care. For those who were critical and say terrible things, I say, spending a day with the children and to see a child who is thankful for every second, with those blessed them. You see only the love, kindness and happiness in the world. As for me, I exist cuts through in a state close to the poverty, but I am so rich, my life is so full. And I am among the happiest people in the world. "Chantal Chaervey Harry mother, 14, has multiple boundary conditions of life, including severe brain damage, no immunity and epilepsy, which means that you can have from 2 to 12 attacks per day.
"Children with special needs my employment opportunities handicapped, despite a good level. It's frustrating paid by the competent authorities for support to deal with. But he taught me a lot about me - even my persistence, tolerance, determination and patience, "Kerry side, whose son George, 20, and Sid, 18, both X - syndrome fragile -. A genetic disease that causes a number of developmental problems, including learning disabilities and cognitive impairment.
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7. Take a moment to imagine what life is my son.
"My son David eight and has a learning disability, autism and sensory processing disorder. David struggles with emotions and can be easily overwhelmed. Imagine yourself in a room full of his greatest fear, how you feel? You can focus on? You can stay calm? Here's how the world is. He did not and tried to escape screaming because he wants a toy or destroy them. It's because you're dealing with these feelings when they surrounded in a busy square of people.
"David is the most amazing guy and tried so hard to achieve. He brought great joy to our lives. David is not a bad boy, David is David. It is an extraordinary child who sees things differently and is daily confronted with things that are difficult for him. "Donna Elston, whose son is eight.
"My son is very bright and smooth. He feels anxiety and exhaustion to get people to be for some time to make your world a lonely place. It has sensory issues and may be hyper-sensitive to noise, light and certain taste. What I want to realize the people that we are a family like everyone else - our challenges are very different.
"Rishi is happening in a world where every day, taunted him, it hurts, the judge and told him to be someone else. You might want to understand their world, but he tried very hard every day to your own understanding. This is a classic definition of pure courage and strength. "Mother Ramya Rishi Kumar, 10, has autism and problems related learning has.
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Amanda Batten, CEO in contact with a member of the family , a national charity for families with disabled children, HuffPost told parents: "Families with children with disabilities throughout the agreement of the kingdom - many will never do we Kingdom with daily challenges before - social and educational support in place for their children to fight people with disabilities to obtain negative attitudes towards proper health. Contact with the family's own studies have shown that negative attitudes towards disability and lack of services the main obstacles to families with disabled children are to live a normal life.
"It is important to recognize all the positive aspects that come with a disabled child from a family. Despite the challenges, the parents say that we often the smallest things that they feel Proudly Made - the simplest sign, a word or a smile of your child. Families with disabled children make a great contribution to our community and the economy in several ways that do not recognize. And although there have been some steps to improve the situation of families with disabled children, it is a long way to go to guarantee them access to the understanding, support and services they need to make it the life they want to live to lead. "
Richard Lane, director of communications disability charity scope of enforcement , said: "Life is too difficult for many parents of disabled children. Parents of disabled children often have a balance between work, sleepless nights, housework and countless medical appointments for their children without the support and guidance they need. In addition, negative attitudes, lack of understanding and hurtful comments of others can make life even more difficult. It is fair to these topics to speak, we can begin to break down barriers and to ensure that all parents feel supported sure. "
